Some women get frustrated when a guy doesn’t call to confirm a date. May even stand him up!
“If a guy asks me out for Sunday and doesn’t call to confirm, I assume we are not going.”
The Answer
Should this be an issue at all, a guy not calling or otherwise communicating to confirm that the date is still on? Do you get frustrated when a man you’ve made plans with to go on a date doesn’t call to confirm?
Some women feel this way because it should be standard practice to call and confirm a date is still on, if it was made a couple/few days in advance. So if you made a date on Tuesday with someone for Saturday, it is normal to wonder if you don’t hear from the guy later in the week to confirm it’s still a go. That’s what it means good manners for under normal circumstances.
So of course it doesn’t make the man look too good when they don’t call to confirm a date, because ideally he should call or text to confirm, but you shouldn’t rash to conclude that this means the guy isn’t interested or is careless.
All sorts of things could have happened. It doesn’t mean that if a guy doesn’t follow up on a date the way you want him to, that he’s a liar who’s just out for one thing.
It could mean he forgot, ran late, or had to take his ailing mother to the hospital. That’s life. You have to be more forgiving, because otherwise you’re going to be missing out on a relationship.
What’s the best received advice in these situations?
The best advice is that you should take the initiative. This is obviously better than standing up your date!
Here’s what you should do in these circumstances:
Assume the date is on, once plans are made, or call the guy yourself to confirm in case you’re having doubts.
You can also downplay it by sending a quick text (which is more realistic for guys than the phone, unfortunately). Send something like: “Remind me again was it 7:00 or 7:30 when we’re meeting?” or “Looking forward to our dinner–call me if you hit traffic.” Something along those lines…
This is a small issue but we’re all different. It really doesn’t warrant standing up your date. Take the initiative and hopefully he will remember this next time and make sure to communicate and confirm any future dates.
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