Have you been dating for a long time but felt that something is still lacking somewhere? Not understanding your partner well enough?
The chances are, both of you are likely still stuck at the very initial stage of a relationship. Well give it a thought. Recall the conversations between both of you in your recent dates or so.
What was it that both of you discussed about? The plot of a movie? What happened during work? The recent fashion sales? Your neighbor’s new born puppies? Gossiping about your friends? Last evening soccer match?
Notice something about all these examples? These are all the usual casual topics that you would have also discussed with your friends. Discussions that do not have direct impact on your personal life.
In a relationship, it’s not about how well or how long you knew each other but rather how well you understand each other? Understanding your love, someone whom you are going to share the rest of your life with.
Well, if in the first place you don’t even have a clue on your partner’s personal life, how will you able to understand each other well? It is through the willingness to share, sharing of your personal life with each other that builds the trust and bond between both of you, strengthening the relationship.
Wouldn’t you love to know more about your partner? Something more personal about him or her? Sure you do!
Well, you can start off by sharing yours, perhaps sharing the problem that you are facing, seeking for your partner’s advice. Think about it, wouldn’t you be happy to know that your partner is willing to share his or her personal problem, having that trust in you?
Surely you will be more than willing to give your support, helping your partner in anyway, to make him or her happy, wouldn’t you?
Be it happiness or unhappiness; be willing to share it with one another. You will learn to cherish and appreciate the company of one another.
The other tip is to ask your date questions about their personal preferences.
If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering your partner’s questions, they are going to ditch you quicker.
Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
“What do you love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”
There, some conversation ideas to spice up your dating and build a stronger relationship going forward.
